The Power of the Other: REAL CONNECTION

Written by Larry Fehd, CEO & Founder / HPS

I often reference the concept of “meaningful conversations.” This article expands on that concept to include “connection” into the consideration and realm of meaningful life experiences.

I read about one new book (on leadership or related topic) weekly. However, a recent inventory of all the potential benefits of my reading revealed a short-list of immediately applicable and practical ideation. One short-list addition is a new book by Henry Cloud, PhD, entitled The Power of the Other (recommended).

Cloud was among the headliners at the Global Leadership Summit earlier this month. He spoke without pretention and with a clean flip chart page and black marker. In less than fifteen minutes, he conveyed one of the most compelling messages delivered during the 2-day Summit. His message modeled and underscored my experiences and observations of the power of innovation (the application of creativity) and conveying value that is simple, substantive and sustainable.

The Power of the Other describes four broad categories of connection in a dynamic model: isolation, bad connection, seductively (false) good connection and real connection. In addition to my inventory, referenced above, I took another and recognized far too little of my own time in real connection. Having spent time in all four, real connection was a compelling voice and call to assess where and how I am investing my limited and precious life time.

You may recall my article Willing More Meaningful Conversation earlier this year. The essence was that meaningful conversations tend to occur on a random basis as opposed to being more deliberate about creating the conditions and space for meaningful conversations. It occurred to me that some of my real connections occurred in a similar fashion and were more random in nature as opposed to my being more deliberate about creating more of them.

I love writing this blog and your feedback, suggestions and dialogue have become a valuable part of my real connections. I gain as much, if not more, from writing and sharing my thoughts and perspectives than perhaps you do. In the coming months, I will continue to seek your comments as I evolve Invitational Leadership™ and outline the contents for the book of the same title. I will also be integrating new video segments of myself into the blog. My hopes are that the videos will convey even more meaningful value and enable a deeper and more intimate connection with each of you.

The Architects of Human Potential™ blog is intended to share my thoughts, perspective and engage dialogue on Exemplary Leadership™ and building high-performance leaders, teams and organizations. This blog community has grown only through your referrals to others. Please continue to recommend the blog to those whom you think would enjoy it too.

“If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” – Albert Einstein

Tips and Practical Applications: 

  • Read, The Power of the Other, and take your own inventory.  Refresh yourself with my articles The ONE Thing about INNOVATIONISTS™ and Pareto’s Principle. How does your ONE Thing and “the vital few and trivial many” relate to your real connections? What actions will you take to seek out and create more meaningful connections?
  • Invite your CEO, president, senior executive staff, fellow team members or perhaps Master Mind Group to read The Power of the Other. Volunteer and take initiative to facilitate meaningful conversations about authentic and real connections.
  • Please continue to help grow our blog community. Forward this article to your CEO, president, senior executive staff, teams, colleagues and friends or this link Subscribe to The Architects of Human Potential™ with a short note and recommendation to subscribe. Thank you!

Larry Fehd


Larry Fehd is CEO and founded Human Performance Strategies (HPS) in 2000 following a successful career with Johnson & Johnson where he led executive leadership, team and organizational development. He is masterful at helping clients to break through inertia and the status quo.  He conceived the new and proprietary concept of Invitational Leadership™. He envisions the future of leadership as a passage beyond inertia and status quo and works with clients to develop invitational leaders at all levels of the organization.  He consults to a diverse group of U.S. and international clientele, and speaks and writes about, building high-performance leaders, cultures, teams and organizations.

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